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Single and Soulful


I’m here today to introduce you to someone.

This person is a nice man. I mean a seriously nice man, who loves animals, children, plants, sunsets, beaches, fishing, walking, nature, good meals, the occasional drink, dessert, reading, music, philosophising, dreaming, conversations that go on for hours, Scrabble, card games and laughing at the absurdity of life. This is a man who cares not a jot for brands, fast cars or anything flashy. I mean he cares not a jot; I don’t mean he pretends not to care while secretly lusting after them.

He is solvent, self-employed and in his mid-thirties. He’s been in therapy and faced his demons. He has no baggage in the form of children or past marriages. He doesn’t gamble, or smoke.

This is a man who would never check his email on his Blackberry while “listening” to you, in fact, he probably doesn’t even know what a Blackberry is. He isn’t on Facebook and he hasn’t heard of Twitter. He does own a cellphone and has been known to send an email, but his job is outdoors and that is where he loves to be. Until recently, he had never left southern Africa, but is now developing a penchant for travel.

What else can I tell you?

His family are sane. (His sister, particularly, is delightful.) He is a compassionate and respectful employer. He has ideas. He gets excited about things. He finds alternative ways of living and being inspiring. People love him. Dogs and children flock to him. He has a way of listening that you makes you feel better than you really are.

Also, he is not in a relationship, and he would love to be. He would love to have a family and be a father. He hasn’t found love yet because he has dedicated the last decade to his passion – trees – and because the women in his home town like men who wear brands, drive fast cars and flash cash.

Want to see him?

Here he is:


Now with slight smile:


I think he’s gorgeous. But then I would. He’s my brother. (And if you’d like an introduction, let me know …)


Author: charlotteotter

Novelist, feminist, crime writer

17 thoughts on “Single and Soulful

  1. Oh, if I didn’t already have my lovely man… who I thought you were describing until you got to the bit about the trees 🙂

  2. I wish I knew the right person for him – he sounds wonderful!

  3. Charlotte, you pimp! If I had a single sister. . .

  4. LOL – I see it now – the Charlotte’s Web Dateline 😉

    If only my single friends weren’t so neurotic… Wouldn’t want to burden the poor guy with that baggage :o)

  5. I guess the person should be georgraphically desirable, huh? too bad, as I know a few single women who I would describe as fab, but none in SA.
    And, does he know that your are pimping him out?
    See you on Saturday

  6. This is brilliant. Funnily enough, I had a good friend post something like this in her residence hall in London (about me). No it didn’t generate anything more than funny rejoinders. Plus the women in the residence hall were pretty lame. Wish said man had some less grumpy pictures. And your blog had single women readers!

  7. Wow, Charlotte. He’s quite a handsome catch! Very clever, on your part… and it’s great that he has such a delightful sister.

  8. Ha ha! Like the bit about the delightful sister…Now, if only I were free…

  9. He sounds like he would have been the perfect catch for me about sixteen years ago (before I met my perfect catch). I hope you find him someone wonderful. May I suggest my friend Feminine Feminist (check out her blog: (She has no idea I’m suggesting, but if you think she might be in the running, maybe I can introduce you via email.)

  10. He is dishy! Of course, I’m too married, too distant, and too old but I hope someone good turns up.

  11. Ah, the native plant man! If only I were single…. You are a wonderful sister!

  12. Too bad I’m too old for him, (clearing throat) oh yeah and happily married:)
    Maybe he should think of joining facebook. Who knows he may know someone who knows someone.

  13. Oh my word!! He sounds PERFECT!! Now everyone is complaining about being to old or already taken…… If i was maybe 5 years older….. only 20 in dec 😦

  14. Yup, sounds perfect for my Rox, such a pity about the age thing……

  15. My twenty-seven year old daughter has just split up with her commitment-phobic boyfriend and your brother sounds like her type of man.
    Once she’s over the worst, I shall point her in this direction.

  16. I almost feel that i am promoting their site for them.. but take a look at might be a way to help… it is NOT a searchable dating site.. rather it takes almost the “paypal” approach.. they store your profile.. and you find your match … and then they share only the part of your profile that you want to share with another person…

    (it could also help your brother.. 😉 )

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